Sophie Ellis-Bextor says she was raped at 17 by 29-year-old musician

Singer Sophie -Ellis Bextor has spoken out for the primary time about being raped on the age of 17 by a 29-year-old musician, revealing the ordeal left her feeling ‘silly and ashamed’

Sophie Ellis-Bextor has spoken out about being raped on the age of 17 by a 29-year-old musician.

The singer says she advised the guitarist ‘no’ however misplaced her virginity to him after going again to his flat.

Recalling the ordeal publicly for the primary time, Sophie stated she was left feeling ‘silly and ashamed’ by what occurred.

The Homicide on the Dancefloor singer stated she is now prepared for voice to be heard as she spoke of the incident in new autobiography Spinning Plates, which has been serialised within the Mail on Sunday.

“If anybody else has been by one thing comparable, it would assist us all discuss it,” she stated.

Sophie stated she met the person at a gig when she was finding out for A stage historical past and went again to his flat to see his examine books.

Recalling what occurred subsequent, Sophie stated: “[The man] and I began kissing and earlier than I knew it we had been on his mattress and he took off my knickers.

“I heard myself saying ‘No’ and ‘I don’t need to’, but it surely didn’t make any distinction.

“He didn’t hearken to me and he had intercourse with me and I felt so ashamed. It was how I misplaced my virginity and I felt silly.

“I bear in mind looking at Jim’s bookcases and pondering: I simply must let this occur now.”

Sophie stated that consent was considered in a different way when she was a youngster and he or she did not suppose she would have a case towards the person as she wasn’t ‘pinned personal or shouted out.’

After preserving the incident a secret for 25 years, Sophie stated she felt ‘complicit.’

“All that occurred was I wasn’t listened to. Of the 2 individuals there, one stated sure, the opposite stated no, and the sure particular person did it anyway.

“The older I’ve change into, the extra stark that 29-year-old man ignoring 17-year-old me has appeared,” stated Sophie, including that she by no means noticed the person once more.

Sophie, who now shares 5 sons together with her husband Richard Jones, went on to say that she doesn’t need to ‘identify and disgrace’ the person.

As an alternative she stated she was sharing her story in a bid to assist different girls and stated that she is going to guarantee her boys are taught about consent.

The musician is the daughter of journalist and TV producer Robin Bextor and former Blue Peter presenter Janet Ellis.

Bextor and Ellis break up when Sophie was four-years-old.

Sophie adopted of their well-known footsteps and pursued a profession in music.

She sang lead vocals in indie band Theaudience earlier than collaborating with DJ Spiller in 2000, lending her vocals to the dance monitor Groovejet (If This Ain’t Love) which grew to become her first primary single.

A yr later Sophie launched her debut album learn My Lips, which reached quantity two on the UK charts and spawned 4 high twenty singles.

• Spinning Plates by Sophie Ellis-Bextor is out on October 7 .